The secret to a happy relationship is two happy people — Naval

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Simpel banget ya kelihatannya? Pengen bilang, “Ya elah coy.. Nenek moyang gw jg tau”? Tapi ya memang begini.

Makanya gw agak 🤔 gimanaaa gitu sama orang yang pas ngelamar bilang ke pasangannya: “I promise I'm going to make you happy.” Like, first of all: is she or he not happy right now? And also, 2) How are you gonna do that? Quoting Mirna Šmidt, founder of Happiness Academy: us humans are notoriously bad at predicting what will make us happy. We make our decisions about the future based on our past experiences, and on our present priorities and ways of thinking, and then by the time that future happens, it ends up being much different than we predicted.

Gw gak pernah memulai suatu hubungan romantis dengan harapan “Bismillah pasangan gw akan membahagiakan gw,” 🥵 or “My partner will complete me” 😵 I mean, HELLO you're not a puzzle yang perlu dilengkapi!!! You're a whole person already!!!

Be happy with yourself first. Kalo lo dan pasangan lo aja gak hepi as a person (dua pribadi yang berbeda ya) — gimana kalian berdua bisa punya happy relationship deh? It takes two to tango. You absolutely absorb your partner's energy — hence make sure you choose one who vibes similarly as you do 🌟